Well, Hindu marriage’s are full of colours and traditions, the respect towards each rasam/tradition is what makes them so special.
Can you guess, how many rasam’s are there in a Hindu marriage?
You’ll be shocked to know that a single Hindu marriage has more than hundreds of rasam and hundred’s of unique rasam.
The seven steps/phere’s are just one of them. Emotions, the inner truth and the faith towards the promises is the forte of this rasam.
You can jump right next to the vows section if you already know the feeling behind these vows:
These are not just seven pheras but 7 promises made by both the groom and the bride to each other.
Each phera is a promise with a deep meaning, which would help the couple to live a happily married life.
Generally, these promises are read out by the couple in Hindi language but there is no language for love and heard, the only thing which matter is how much faith you have which reading out each vachan.
This rasam does not complete with just reading out the promises after that couple has to walk 7 rounds around the fire and thereby pledge themselves to each other.
Why do a couple has to walk around the fire?
In India and the Hindu religion, fire is considered as god and reading out promises while walking around the holy fire is a sign of purity.
It is a complete process and takes place under the guidance of “Pandit”, tiny steps complete up this whole process.
Excited to see, what these seven rasam’s are and why they have so much significance?
Let’s jump right in…
Groom: “Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”
With God as our guide, I promise I will be responsible for providing you with the nourishment, welfare and happiness and to the children.
Bride: “Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”
With God as our guide, I promise I will take care of the family and household and will share his responsibility as my own.
In the first vow, the couple pledge to take care of each other providing food that nourishes the couple to live together with respect for each other.
Groom: “Om oorje jara dastayaha”
With God as our guide, I promise I will remain loyal and faithful and will stand by you throughout the ups and downs of life. I will provide physical, mental and financial stability to the whole family.
Bride: “Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”
With God as our guide, I promise I will share the responsibility by helping you in every possible way and will show courage and strength in every difficult situation.
In the second vow, the couple pleads to the god to bless them with all the mental, physical strength and courage. They promise to stand by each other and supporting each other in every situation
Groom: “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha”
With God as our guide, I promise I will work hard putting all the efforts to bring wealth and prosperity in the house and giving education to our children.
Bride: “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”
With God as our guide, I promise I will act responsibly in maintaining the resources, take care of our children and devote my love exceptionally to you and all other men would be secondary in my life.
In the third vow, the couple pleads for wealth and prosperity so that they can live a healthy and comfortable life.
Groom: “Om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha”
With God as our guide, I thank you for bringing so much happiness in my life and through this sacred affair of marriage you’ve made my life complete and I promise to respect both the families.
Bride: “Lalayami cha pade vadet”
With God as our guide, I promise I will stand by your side in all the rituals, religious commitments and will walk by your side giving my consent to your decisions.
In the fourth vow, groom thanks the bride for bringing happiness to his life and the couple promises to take care of their elders and family members to build a strong family relationship.
Groom: “Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha”
You are my soulmate and staunchest well-wisher, you’ve come to my life to make it more beautiful, thank you and God bless you.
Bride: “Arte arba sapade vadet”
I promise to love you and cherish you throughout my life, your happiness is my happiness and your sorrows are my sorrow’s. I will trust and honour you and will try to fulfil all your desires.
In the fifth vow, the groom promises to the bride that she will be his best friend and soulmate and bride promises to cherish his whole life through her actions and words.
Groom: “Rutubhyah shat padi bhava”
Now that you’ve taken these 5 holy steps with me you’ve filled my heart with immense happiness, will you do the kindness of doing the same throughout the life?
Bride: “Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”
Yes, I’ll always be your side and will make sure our future is calm and balanced together.
In the sixth phera, the groom asks the bride, will she bring the same happiness as of now throughout his life and bride answers it as she will always stand by his side and make sure a healthy future together.
Groom: “Om sakhi jaradastayahga”
We’re now husband and wife and now we are one soul, you’re mine and I’m yours for eternity.
Bride: “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade”
With God as our guide, I’m your wife. We’ll love, respect and cherish each other forever.
In the seventh vow, the groom proclaims we are one, you’re mine and I’m all yours. The bride accepts the proclamation and says we’ll love, respect and cherish each other forever.
Significance of these 7 vows?
The marriage vows cover a big slice in any wedding because these are not just words, these are promises, expression of their future intentions towards each other.
The vows cover do’s and don’ts the couple will be following for a healthy and happily married life.
They promise to put each other’s happiness first and bear the responsibility of having a happy family together.
Both the groom and the bride promise to cede him/her to each other in any situation.
I’m not married yet but I had a keen interest in knowing why these 7 vows are so so valuable.
In India, we always find people talking about the culture and traditions but unless you experience it or try to understand it yourself, you’ll never know how deep and meaningful a culture or a tradition is.
While researching and writing about these 7 vows, I’ve gone through the immense deepness each word is carrying.
You’ll find different explanations for these vows at different sources but the end you’ll find, the real meaning, the value behind these vows is the same everywhere.
- First vow: For providing food and nourishment
- Second vow: Prayer for providing strength.
- Third vow: Prayer for prosperity.
- Fourth vow: Promise to respect both the families.
- Fifth vow: Promise of Progeny
- Sixth vow: Promise to walk together as a healthy and peaceful life.
- Seventh vow: We are one soul now.